Conscious Conversations Amongst Men in the Age of #MeToo
in the Age of #MeToo
If you’re lucky, you can count a YOG as one of dear friends. A YOG, as explained by Marc Stcherbina, is a “Young Older Guy”—someone who’s not exactly old, but who’s definitely got life experience under their belt. YOGs are the types of people who you can go to for advice, guidance, and inspiration who just get what you’re going through in a way that a significantly older generation might now. And in today’s day and age, everyone could benefit from more realistic mentorship in their day to day lives.
Stcherbina started YOG Talks as a forum for people with experience to share what they’ve learned about physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Like TED, for the Gen X set. Marc sat down with us to chat more about why we need YOGs now more than ever, the role of conscious conversations amongst men during the #metoo movement, and why everyone should read up more on emotional intelligence.
YOG stands for Young Older Guy. Can you explain a little about how you came to this appellation and its definition?
Around 5 years ago, my best buddy and room mate at the time came up with this concept while traveling to my home country Australia. We were in a bar and it become suddenly painfully obvious that we were being viewed by the extremely young clientele as "Those Older Guys". We joked about it and maintained that while we may now have moved into that category, we are still Young in many ways, especially our zest for life and commitment to balance and emotional and physical wellbeing. We immediately came up with the acronym "Young Older Guys" and thought it would be fun to start a blog called the YOG blog and provide content for men over 35 on how to embrace the aging process and live their best lives.
I wanted to take the next step and bring the blog to life by creating YOG Talks—a networking event where consciously like minded people could come together to inspire and be inspired and connect and collaborate in a way that could make a positive impact in the community and the world.
The fact that more women were attending the events than men has me re-evaluating YOG to become the Young Older Generation, consisting of both Young Older Guys, and Young Older Gals.
Why do we need YOGs today?
We need YOGs today to spread the message of consciousness, honorability, integrity, love, and human kindness through contribution, service and social change, while inspiring the younger generation to value connection and emotional intelligence in this increasingly digital world!
How do recent events like the #MeToo movement impact the programming for YOG Talks?
The recent #metoo movement provided a great discussion piece for the evolving roles of men and women in society, and the changing conversations around women’s rights and equality. In fact, at YOG Talks #3 one of our guest speakers was TV/radio host and relationship expert Dr. Wendy Walsh, who is also one of the silence breakers that kicked off the #metoo movement, earning her the recognition as one of Time Magazine’s “People Of The Year”.
What is the goal of YOG Talks?
The goal of YOG Talks is to bring together consciously minded people in the community to connect, share ideas, inspire and be inspired to step into their power to live a balanced, meaningful life, while using that power to make a positive impact in the world.
Can anyone attend YOG events, or are they only for men?
All are welcome at YOG Talks. As mentioned before, more women have attended YOG Talks than men. The idea was to include women in the discussions men were having around the challenges of aging and what it looks like to live our best lives. Since women are a huge part of those conversations, and also experience similar challenges, it is valuable to share the space and engage in the discussions together to better understand one another’s perspective, just as should be the case for any healthy relationship in my opinion.
What's something you wish more people knew about?
I wish more people knew about and practiced emotional intelligence, self awareness, and self actualization. I believe that if more education (especially in the school system) was delivered around understanding and managing one’s own and other people’s emotions, while being given the tools to realize and fulfill one’s own talents and potentialities, we would live in a world with less fear, anxiety, depression, hate, violence and separation.